Well its been ages since I have blogged and though I have had a couple of thoughts floating in my head, there has been nothing concrete to write about. I have been thinking about this lately, about how we associate selfishness to benevolence. According to general standards, being selfish is BAD! It’s bad for the people around you. The fact that u put yourself before others is unethical, it’s not right…but why? Why is being selfish really bad?! As long as you make yourself happy without hurting others in the process, how can it be wrong or for that matter bad? Most of the times going out of the way for yourself will leave u feeling guilty whereas the same amount of money or time spent on a second person might just about get you more satisfied…why? Why can’t your pursuit of happiness end at YOU?!! It’s really strange to go to think that another person can determine your happiness, whereas your genuine happiness could lead to guilt...though this is roughly what most of us experience.
Though ultimately to think of it, we humans are after all social animals, we need to talk, understand, feel, express, be accepted and wanted by our fellow beings, but we don’t realize that in the whole bargain we end up living a life trying to please the people around us, trying to gain acceptance in our society and worse of all we connect to a feeling of guilt when we derive happiness fro ourselves. I have come across many people who after a certain point refuse to be happier than the people around them because it’s selfish. A little excess of happiness, of fun, of life in its true sense can make them feel guilty. These people have accepted the fact that life can’t be always full of fun and happiness all the time and if that is the case then they are bound to fail at some point.
To think of it this way, happiness derived from yourself is something you can bank upon. You don’t end up depending on another to be happy. You will end up being happy if and only when you want to be happy. Your happiness depends solely on you. Though It’s commonly believed that the attributes of giving is noble, but according to me you can give only if you are self-sufficient, if you are self dependent only then are you dependable. Atleast it ensures that your pursuit if happiness starts and ends at you;0)
Cheers
Sneha:)
